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The Gap and the Gain - Book Summary

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 I read The Gap and the Gain [1] book authored by Dan Sullivan [2] and Dr Benjamin Hardy [3]. This book gives tools to measure your gains periodically to build your self confidence and reach your goals.  I summarized my take away from the book into several slides as given below.         References [1] - https://www.amazon.com/Gap-Gain-Achievers-Happiness-Confidence/dp/1401964362 [2] - https://www.strategiccoach.com/our-team/#/people/dan-sullivan/ [3] - https://www.linkedin.com/in/benjaminhardy88/

Feeling Insecure by Co-workers ! Are Your Life Whole ?

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Palitha was employed at Stock & You a startup company, as a manager. He was spending long hours developing a cutting edge application enabling people to trade stocks easily. He was very happy with the work and contribution making towards the company goals.  One fine day, his boss informed a new junior manager called Priyanka will be introduced to the team and part of his responsibilities will handed over to that person so that company will be able meet its increase demand.  Palitha felt uncomfortable by Priyanka and her role in the company. He was upset and did not help Priyanka with necessary knowledge transfer and had  advised his team members to not to provide additional information requested by her. Priyanka, felt that team was not cooperating with her and tried to leave Stock & You. Priyanka had informed this reason for her resignation to the higher management. Palith's boss was very unhappy with this news, but asked Priynaka to stay and severely warned Pa...

Universal Truth about Fear

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Fear is built into every living being as a biological response to protect itself from harm. It is acts as protective mechanism on any living being (humans included) as a reaction to a threat and prepare the being to fight or flee away from it. Similar to animals, every one us of will feel fear when we encounter any unknown situation. Though some say that do not feel fear but experiences only minute forms of nervousness or anxiousness, which are also forms of fear manifestations. As you all agreed these feelings of fear is unpleasant and majority of us avoid situation or get paralyzed without taking action due to it.  Susan Jeffers [1] in her book Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway [2] says that "You cannot make Fear go away" and defines 5 universal Fear truths which you need to acknowledge to make it a trustful companion. Given below is an my attempt to describe them. Truth 1 - Fear will never go way even if I continue to grow   Fear will never go away even after achieving yo...

Understanding and Busting the Fear Levels

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 As a child how many times have you heard the word be careful from your parents. As an adult or a parent how may time have you asked you child to be careful ? I have heard these words of carefulness being dished out by my parents and I am guilty of dishing these words to my kids. The above behaviors that is passed to us through generations could have played a significant role in our fears. Susan Jeffers [1] in her book Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway [2] defines 3 levels of fear. Let me explain the these fear levels to you and show the real origin of these fears. Level 1 Level 1 is the surface story and belongs to fearful events that happen to us. These events can be divided into 2 types, events that can "happen" to us and events that we are required to take action. Events that can happen to us and which we do not have apparent control can be listed as below Aging Becoming disabled Retirement Being alone Children leaving home Natural disasters Loss of financial security Ch...

You are the Creator of Time ?

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You should not approach time a scarce resource. You should come out the concept that, you exist separately from time. Also that time the master and you are the slave. As  Gay Hendricks [1] in his book The Big Leap [2] explains, that vast majority of people experience Newtonian time , where we assume that time exists separately and it constantly exerting pressure on us. Gay goes on to explain new way of looking at time, which he calls as Einstein time where you take the ownership of your time. This shift in view makes you the source and the creator of time. This sounds quite strange and unfamiliar to most of us. I will try to explain this concept using the following story. Lets assume that while you are doing some office or project work, your kid interrupts that work, asking to play with her. You refuse saying that you do not have time and continue working. After some time, you hear a loud noise and see your kid fallen unconscious on the ground. Now, you postpone the work and r...

Zones of Being

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Gay Hendricks [1] explains in his book The Big Leap [2], there are 4 zones, any human being would operate, while doing their daily activities. He further explains that, while most of us would operate in Zones of Competence or Excellence or Incompetence, we seldomly recognize our Zone of Genius.   I will be explaining these Zones pictorially taking the example of riding bicycle   Zone of Incompetence This Zone contains activities you do not do well and ones you do not enjoy doing like riding the tricycle as given in image above. Some of these activities could drain your energy. You may find these activities boring, irritating and prone to make more errors. There are other people in your team or group who can do these better and efficiently than you. Therefore it is better that you find ways to delegate these to another person or a system.  Learning new new skills or hobby also will be take time and create outcomes with more errors but does not fall into thi...