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[Book Summary] : The 4C’s Formula

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I read The 4C’s Formula: Commitment, Courage, Capability and Confidence [1] book authored by Dan Sullivan [2]. Given below is my take-away from this book.     Dan used the 4C’s formula given below to successfully publish 1 book for each quarter (i.e 4 books for a year). This book explains concepts he used to achieved this seemingly impossible goal.      Commitment The first stage of this formula is making a Commitment. When you commit you should make this visible to others as well, thereby you will forced take actions toward it. This also informally get others to help you to achieve the goal. Courage Once you commit and make it public, you will feel the fear of a possibility of failing and risking your reputation. This will make you quickly move to second stage of exhibiting Courage to take actions to realize the Commitment.  Capability Once you take actions to realize the Commitment, you will be gradually develop new skills which was not there ...

Feeling Insecure by Co-workers ! Are Your Life Whole ?

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Palitha was employed at Stock & You a startup company, as a manager. He was spending long hours developing a cutting edge application enabling people to trade stocks easily. He was very happy with the work and contribution making towards the company goals.  One fine day, his boss informed a new junior manager called Priyanka will be introduced to the team and part of his responsibilities will handed over to that person so that company will be able meet its increase demand.  Palitha felt uncomfortable by Priyanka and her role in the company. He was upset and did not help Priyanka with necessary knowledge transfer and had  advised his team members to not to provide additional information requested by her. Priyanka, felt that team was not cooperating with her and tried to leave Stock & You. Priyanka had informed this reason for her resignation to the higher management. Palith's boss was very unhappy with this news, but asked Priynaka to stay and severely warned Pa...

Universal Truth about Fear

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Fear is built into every living being as a biological response to protect itself from harm. It is acts as protective mechanism on any living being (humans included) as a reaction to a threat and prepare the being to fight or flee away from it. Similar to animals, every one us of will feel fear when we encounter any unknown situation. Though some say that do not feel fear but experiences only minute forms of nervousness or anxiousness, which are also forms of fear manifestations. As you all agreed these feelings of fear is unpleasant and majority of us avoid situation or get paralyzed without taking action due to it.  Susan Jeffers [1] in her book Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway [2] says that "You cannot make Fear go away" and defines 5 universal Fear truths which you need to acknowledge to make it a trustful companion. Given below is an my attempt to describe them. Truth 1 - Fear will never go way even if I continue to grow   Fear will never go away even after achieving yo...

Understanding and Busting the Fear Levels

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 As a child how many times have you heard the word be careful from your parents. As an adult or a parent how may time have you asked you child to be careful ? I have heard these words of carefulness being dished out by my parents and I am guilty of dishing these words to my kids. The above behaviors that is passed to us through generations could have played a significant role in our fears. Susan Jeffers [1] in her book Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway [2] defines 3 levels of fear. Let me explain the these fear levels to you and show the real origin of these fears. Level 1 Level 1 is the surface story and belongs to fearful events that happen to us. These events can be divided into 2 types, events that can "happen" to us and events that we are required to take action. Events that can happen to us and which we do not have apparent control can be listed as below Aging Becoming disabled Retirement Being alone Children leaving home Natural disasters Loss of financial security Ch...